Do you ever feel like you and your partner are speaking different languages? Like you don’t understand one another? Maybe it’s because you are speaking different languages- LOVE languages. Or maybe it's because your communication styles differ.
There are five different love languages. As an adult, we give and receive love in different ways. You can have more than one love language. If your partner receives love differently than the way you give love- you might be speaking different languages. You can imagine how that might lead you or you’re partner to feel unloved, unappreciated, or not supported.
Lots of couples go through the difficulties of communication. Some find ways to persevere and others end up breaking up because, “We just cannot communicate.” Just like love languages, we all have different styles of communication. It’s not as simple as just talking to each other.
So where do we learn to communicate? Where we learn almost everything else in life- our childhood. We learn from our caregivers how to communicate what we need, what we like and don’t like, and our emotions. Since we all grew up with different caregivers, of course we have all learned different communication styles.
Couples counseling & marriage counseling with Mind & Body Integrative Counseling Center in Pembroke Pines can help you build a deeper connection with one another and build a stronger, more passionate relationship.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a well-known couples counseling & marriage counseling humanistic approach to psychotherapy formulated in the 1980’s and developed in tandem with the science of adult attachment, a profound developmental theory of personality and intimate relationships. Attachment views human beings as innately relational, social and wired for intimate bonding with others. The EFT model prioritizes emotion and emotional regulation as the key organizing agents in individual experience and key relationship interactions.
EFT for couples is the gold standard for empirically validated intervention in this field. EFT is best known as a cutting edge, tested and proven couple intervention .This model operationalizes the principles of attachment science using non-pathologizing experiential and relational systems techniques to focus on and change core organizing factors in both the self and key relationships.
The Gottman Method was developed by Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman in the 1980s. It is an evidence-based form of couples counseling & marriage counseling that strives to assist couples in achieving a deeper sense of understanding, awareness, empathy, and connectedness within their relationships that ultimately leads to heightened intimacy and interpersonal growth. By combining therapeutic interventions with couples exercises, this type of therapy helps couples identify and address the natural defenses that hinder effective communication and bonding.
Interventions are designed to help couples strengthen their relationships in three primary areas: friendship, conflict management, and creation of shared meaning. Couples learn to replace negative conflict patterns with positive interactions and to repair past hurts. Interventions designed to increase closeness and intimacy are used to improve friendship, deepen emotional connection, and create changes which enhances the couples shared goals. Relapse prevention is also addressed.
The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.
The Gottman Institute. (n.d.). Retrieved from http://www.gottman.com
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